by feather

Bondage is another activity often used in BDSM lifestyles. Bondage restricts the movement of a submissive or may totally immobilize her, for part of the pleasure in the activity or possibly for disciplinary purposes.

The Dominant, being the Top or the person in control of the activity applies restraints to the submissive in some fashion, utilizing various types of restraints. Bindings may include chains or rope and may also include other equipment or gear. Whatever the tools may be, they are often available at local fetish shops, on-line fetish suppliers, the boating/hardware area of an outlet or perhaps even at your local building supply store.

The Dominant is the responsible party in making sure this activity is done properly and in a safe manner. Though the submissive is often bound for restrictive purposes, cutting off blood circulation is not the desired intent. During the course of this activity, the Dominant may wish to have the submissive’s undivided attention for instruction, punishment, or for heightened sexual arousal; severe discomfort of the submissive, defeats the purpose and puts the sub at risk of injury.
The trust element of D/s is very important in this activity; this is one of the primary activities we preach “safe, sane, and consensual” and to take time to get to know your Dominant, for in bondage, the submissive will be unable to escape should the Dominant begin to act inappropriately or dangerously. Trust is also important for the communication process needed during a session. The submissive needs to communicate to her Dominant when the bondage is causing her severe physical distress. In turn, the Dominant needs to be trusted to understand her communication or cues and to end the session and the distress immediately.

Bondage is a physical act of total submission; the submissive has chosen to allow herself to become totally vulnerable to her Dominant, trusting Him not to hurt her, nor disrespect the limits that they went over together or have agreed to. The Dominant in turn, must act responsibility and be in full control of his mental process; as well as being able to be alert of any possible injury at all times.

Most BDSM activities have the possibility for danger or injury; therefore, drugs and alcohol in this lifestyle are frowned upon and never recommended for usage prior any session, private or public, by the submissive nor the Dominant.

ATTENTION: Bondage has the potential to cause injury or death. If you have no practice with it find a Dungeon Master or another D/s couple to assist you in bondage techniques prior to attempting it on a submissive.

Types of Bindings and Their Uses:


Most often rope is used for bondage. Binding of the wrists and/or ankles is common, as well as attaching the wrists to other parts of the anatomy (waist, thighs, ankles). Some Dominants like to use scarves, belts, neckties or other flexible binding available, as a personal preference or due to availability of restraint materials.

The submissive may also be bound to inanimate objects such as doorways (using hooks) , bondage crosses, spreader bars, tables, chairs and other bondage furniture, depending on what the Dominant is seeking in the activity.

This activity allows for great imagination; however, skill and knowledge is essential. Rope can and will cut off circulation and/or create skin irritations if not carefully done. Soft rope, such as that used for boating is recommended for it will not tighten as easily as smaller diameter rope and bindings. Should your submissive struggle during the bondage session, rope and the knots will tighten. Keep a sharp instrument handy for adept release if there is any sign of danger or harm for the submissive.


Strapping materials are often used when binding a submissive to a table or other object; however is also used in binding the wrists and ankles together. The degree of restriction is greater with nylon webbing or leather strap materials.

NOTE: When using strap items, check them thoroughly before use. If the item is frayed, ripped, has loose attachments, or is discolored, either repair the damage or throw the item away.


Another common restraint used in bondage are cuffs. Cuffs are most often designed for wrists, ankles and thighs. Leather cuffs are most common, purchased from fetish stores or on-line sources. Many beginners utilize collars from pet stores and adapt them to fit the activity they are planning. Many cat collars are made to break away and this is an ideal cuff for novice to use.

Highly visible in BDSM websites are metal handcuffs and ankle cuffs (shackles); though assumed to be popular, they aren’t recommended as they can cause undo discomfort and cause injury to the skin and tendons.


Chains are not commonly used on the skin of the submissive due their tendency to cause injury as and actual binding material. But are often part of a play session due to the sensations upon the submissives skin. Metal is cool to the touch and often a relief on areas of skin which have been warmed. Chains also offer great sound enticement during a session.

Some dominants will use chains to fasten cuffs to bondage objects, such as a cross or eye hooks fastened on a doorway. Should you wish to use chain on the skin tissue rather than the other bondage materials mentioned above, be sure the chain is smooth and finished to prevent scraping and utilize the many styles of release clamps found at a hardware store. Chains do twist easily, so the Dominant should stay aware of any possible pinching of the skin tissue.


Collars are often used in bondage activities. They may be training collars made of leather with strategically placed D or O rings for fastening, or they may be a common nylon dog collar from the pet store. Great care must be used when using a collar, due to the danger of choking the submissive. The novice is not advised to use any binding upon the neck until properly trained by a Mentor who is skilled in bondage techniques.

Spreader Bars

Spreader bars are a common bondage tool which are designed to separate the legs and/or arms. The length of these bars varies, most often in the two to three foot range. Eye hooks are attached to the bars on the ends, sometimes center, where cuffs may be fasten or the submissive’s collar. This is a restraint tool enjoyed by many Dominants like since it makes the submissive very accessible to them and positioning can easily be changed. It is also a bondage tool easily made from materials at a building supply store. The Dominant should be extremely aware of the construction of the bar, so no sharp edges or splinters will injure the submissive. Also be sure to check the hooks fastenings prior to use, to be sure they are soundly in place.

Miscellaneous Bondage Furniture

Dominants with a dungeon area or extra space available in their homes, will utilize other bondage furnishings, such as St. Andrew crosses, T-cross, bondage benches, stockades, and/or modified carpentry horses. However, most Dominants utilize furnishings within their own home for bondage uses. Using his imagination, the Dominant may never look at a table, chair, weight bench or even his poster bed, in the same way. Expense, is not what makes bondage an enjoyable activity, it’s the matter of how you train your submissive and the skill with which you do it.

Remember, that by being the Dominant your tools, gear and furniture are your responsibility; as is the safety of your submissive. Always inspect your items prior to having a session. Yes, there are painful pleasures; however, a splinter in your submissive’s buttocks is probably not your intent.

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