What is body piercing? What is "C&B;" play, or "genitorture"?
aren't just done to ears. People on this list have their nipples,
navels, eyebrows, clitoris hoods, penises, labia, and other body
parts pierced, and bits of metal permanently in the piercings.
These are the bare facts, but this practice, it turns out, has
a lot to do with SM.
a piercing, first of all, is an incredibly intense rush, on a
purely physical level. It's a very powerful thing to willingly
have someone push a sharp piece of metal through your body. It
can be a level of sensation beyond any you've experienced in your
you have the piercing, it can completely change the way that part
of the body feels to you. One friend of mine said that his nipple
piercings turned his nipples from little places that felt OK to
full-fledged erotic zones connected right to his cock. He calls
his nipple piercings the best thing he's ever done for his body
and his sex life, and he seems damn sincere! The same goes for
all the piercings in the genital area; they can really make sex
is some medical evidence that nerves around the pierced location
become much more sensitive, so this isn't mere folklore. In case
it wasn't clear, once a piercing heals, it doesn't hurt at all;
quite the opposite!
people get into play piercings, which are done temporarily with
very thin needles, which are removed at the end of the scene.
This is basically another kind of sensory trip, which some find
very enjoyable. The needles don't _hurt_, exactly, but you certainly
do know they're in there, and they sure do get those endorphins
don't want to try permanent piercings unless you've been personally
trained by a professional; there is a lot of knowledge involved,
and you definitely don't want to get stuck with a bad piercing.
Play piercings are less hardcore, but you still want to make sure
you know sterile technique (remember safe sex!).
nipple piercing cause problems with nursing? Sometimes yes, sometimes
no; there are stories both ways. There are many milk ducts in
an average nipple, so the chances are good that nursing can still
happen, but nothing is certain.
more information about piercings, see rec.arts.bodyart (or possibly
later editions of this FAQ).
play" stands for cock & ball play. "Genitorture"
stands for "genital torture". This is a subject that
makes some men clutch their nuts and run in fear, and makes other
men instantly erect and greedy for more. The male genitals are
at once the most vulnerable and most sensitive part of the male
body, so of course many tops enjoy playing with them.
are rings that go around your cock, typically around the base
of it, behind the balls. The penis becomes erect when the blood
vessels at its base constrict (because of arousal), trapping blood
in the cock and causing it to swell. Cock rings have a similar
effect, prolonging erection in most men that use them. (They also
constrict the urethra, which will make any orgasm more painful,
or even cause ejaculate to back up into the bladder. This is not
dangerous unless done repeatedly. Experiment to find out how much
tightness is too much.)
are made of leather, with adjustable snaps, so you can tighten
or loosen them to fit (as well as remove them easily). Some are
made of rubber. Some are even made of metal, but metal ones can
be hazardous; if you put a too-small one on your non-erect cock,
your cock may become so erect that you can no longer remove it--and
if it is too tight, it will prevent your cock from softening.
This may involve a trip to the emergency room and the use of bolt
cutters. No joke.
cock rings have multiple rings, for behind the balls, around the
balls themselves, and around the base of the shaft. Some people
like using _lots_ of cock rings, to stretch the balls out away
from the body.
tips: The broadest guideline is to go slowly until you know how
much you can take. If the pain from a particular activity starts
to spread into other areas of the body, or if the pain lasts for
a long time after the stimulation ends, you have probably gone
beyond your limits. You won't reach this point generally if you
take your time. As with any SM practice, if you find yourself
in pain later, or if you notice any abnormalities in your cock
or balls when flaccid or erect, see a doctor. Of course, avoid
any practice that seriously wrenches or twists the genitals; there
are many ligaments and blood vessels in there, damage to which
may make it hard for you to get hard. But the cock and balls can
handle light whipping or slapping, provided it is done with care.
course, cock and ball bondage can be done with leather strips,
ribbons, velvet cords, etc. Be as ornamental as you please; tying
up an erect cock can create a luscious work of art, and teasing
it can be even more artistic. Don't expect C&B bondage to
keep a cock hard indefinitely; cocks will usually get soft if
not stimulated, and bondage which _will_ keep it hard may be dangerously
tight. In any event, be sure you can remove your bondage quickly,
great deal can also be done with female genitalia. Some women
love having clothespins on their pussy lips; some love light whipping
on their outer labia, or even their clitoris. Sometimes body piercings
can be used for bondage; labia piercings can hold a pussy open
very delightfully, or clit hood piercings can be tied up out of
the way with thread, leaving the clit naked and exposed. Some
women like soft fur on their pussy; others like to be alternately
soothed and tormented until they can stand no more.
Again, go slowly. Do NOT blow into the vagina, whatever else you
do. Don't leave clamps on very long until you know how much your
partner enjoys (and how it will feel to her the next day when
the scene is over). Too much of one kind of sensation can become
irritating quickly; change the stimulation, keep your bottom aroused
and surprised. There are all _sorts_ of things that can be used
on female genitals; one article I have lists "bamboo skewers,
candles, cheese graters, clips, flyswatter, ice cubes, knives,
latex squares, leather thongs, massage bongers, rabbit fur, ropes,
scalp scrubber, silk, spoons, towels, weights, and whips"
as items that can be useful in giving your bottom's genitals a
ride they won't forget. (And no, you don't do this until you cause
real damage, any more than you do with male genitals. Don't be
scraping, scabbing, or scarring--these are the most sensitive
parts of the body you're playing with!)
is paramount in female genital play; women's pussies vary as much
as any other part of women's bodies (or more), and responses will
vary equally dramatically. In general, the same sort of rhythm
discussed in the whipping section is useful in cunt play, though
if anything the top needs to go even more slowly, as the sensations
will be more intense and focused than in almost any other kind
of sensation scene.
final tidbit: apparently, for many women, a common pre-orgasmic
response is for the clit to retreat into its hood. If you are
giving your partner some very delicious sensation (possibly combined
with some just-right pain) and her clit disappears, DON'T STOP!
(Unless you _want_ to avoid her orgasm... don't push this too
far, unless your bottom's feet are tied down--she may kick.) And
know your limits; if your bottom really wants an orgasm to end
the scene, giving her one may make her EXTREMELY grateful to you,
and waiting _too_ long may burn you both out. This is good stuff
to negotiate about beforehand in any scene--how would you like
the scene to end? Breaking such an agreement will engender mistrust,
but honesty, as always, will help everyone get what they want.