seems to be a reasonable question for many of us as we truly enter
the new year is: Where can spirituality fit and harmonize in our
lifestyle and our relationships?
answer the question for myself I turned to the Bible, the Dead
Sea Scrolls, the Kabala and many other eastern beliefs (Hindu,
Buddhism Etc.) in search for the common threads of spirituality
amongst these many schools of thought.
of the branch of learning the foremost thought of belief was recognition
and obedience to a Higher-Identity.
in every spiritual teaching able to survive the test of time there
exists the rule: Love and respect (Do onto others as…) for our
comparison of our lifestyle to these two basic teachings is enlightening.
we not believe in an order of recognition and obedience to a higher-identity
(Dom)? Plus, as a basic principle of our family do we not teach
acceptance and respect of others?
this Dom, the answer to both questions is an obvious and undeniable
there remains the question: How can we blend our thoughts about
today's BDSM lifestyle and the teachings of spirituality reaching
back more than seven thousand years?
is the 'Higher-Identity' of spirituality (God) and the 'higher-identity'
of BDSM (Dom) and while both as identities receive respect and
obedience there can be no confusion that one ranks higher in allegiance
for our daily life.
this Dom would never place himself above the spiritual Higher-Identity
(God) nor would this Dom teach there was wisdom in doing so for
his fellow Dom's or his sub.
after careful thought there is a harmonizing path to reconciling
the two higher-identities. There exists a path for creating a
trinity between Higher-Identity (God) higher-identity (Dom) and
would this spiritual trinity work in real life? For this Dom it
begins with an absolute realization that his Higher-Identity rules
supreme. That his Higher-Identity IS… and as such is all encompassing,
worthy of obedience, recognition and love. Furthermore, that as
a creation in the image of his Higher-Identity this Dom's role
in life would be to emulate and follow as much as humanly possible
the teachings of his Higher-Identity. This would include the principles
of love, acceptance and wisdom passed on for the last seven thousand
a Dom with this special task before him it would be important
to teach his sub that they are an integral, vital and important
part of a BDSM body. A spiritual body consisting of three parts:
The Higher-Identity, the Dom and the sub. The order of submission
would be as follows,
the trinity relationship of this BDSM spiritual body could be
said to consist of,
described what the trinity would look like as a spiritual body
what follows this harmonizing of beliefs between ancient spiritual
wisdom and BDSM today is straightforward.
have a Dom who submits to his Higher-Identity and in the process
of his own submission does not lose touch with the true gift submission
is from his own sub. Also, we have a Dom who is acting with a
higher authority and loftier goals than base pleasure as an objective
for being a Dom. More, we have a Dom who is seeking to bring lasting
and not convenient wisdom to a relationship. In few words, we
have a Dom choosing a lesson plan of his own that that tries to
understand the true and unchanging motives of his Higher-Identity.
We have a Dom living in a world where Domination and submission
creates harmony, enriches the mind, nourishes the body and nurtures
the soul of both the Dom and his sub.
for the sub's, we see a world of submission that has a spiritual
purpose, an underlying structure of wisdom and a way to nurture
their own soul. We see that an abusive relationship with a worldly,
unenlightened Dom would not be tolerated. The sub's gift of submission
would be wholly appreciated. The task and joy of learning total
submission would be enriching on all the mind, body and soul levels
of the sub.
conclusion, after careful thought the above trinity is the path
this Dom has chosen to live his life and teach his sub is a spiritual
path within the BDSM lifestyle of today.
true test for this Dom was to take the teachings of most all the
schools of spirituality and try to find even one area of conflict
with the above thoughts. And, while this Dom doesn't pretend to
know each and every nuance, degree or trace of the individual
teachings of these varied belief systems one thing was undeniably
true… The BDSM spiritual trinity places our Higher-Identity first
and the respect for others second in life…So, I say,
time spirituality is good enough for me. (and my sub)"