spanking experience can start long, hours or even days, before
the actual spanking. For some people, the anticipation of
the event is often more exciting than the event itself. One
thing you can do to heighten anticipation is to go toy shopping
out your local kink shop. If you don't have one in the area,
beauty supply stores, kitchen shops, hardwares, pharmacies,
pet stores, and tack shops offer a great selection. Another
thing you can do is to simply talk about what is going to
happen. Tell your sub what you will use on her. Tell her what
position you are going to put her in. Let your imagination
fun trick is to tell your bottom *exactly* what time she will
be spanked later in the day. Then, call her with the countdown
every once in awhile. I guarantee there will be nothing else
on her mind all day long. Perhaps you are going out to dinner
that evening. Request that she doesn't wear any panties, and
when you get to the restaurant, have her slide her skirt out
from beneath her. Bare skin against a leather seat is oh-so-delicious,
and puts the focus exactly where
it oughta be. <eg> When the time comes to start the
actual festivities, heighten the anticipation a little bit
more. Stand her in the corner. Or, send her for the toys.
"Young lady, bring me the hairbrush" is likely to
send shivers up her spine and down to her, uhm, toes. Perhaps
you would like to send her to the bedroom to "prepare
herself" and wait for you. Maybe you would enjoy putting
her in position over the arm of the sofa to wait while you
finish the evening paper, or make that phone call. Again,
use your imagination to draw the fun out.
it is time for the actual spanking.
like to start over the clothes, with slow, firm strokes of
the hand. Take your time, there is no need to rush. When you
get tired at looking at her skirt, slowly raise it up to her
waist. With each inch, you will probably be able to feel her
excitement grow. Go through the same routine over her panties...slow,
firm strokes..making sure to spread them over the entire bottom.
a lot of people, the "taking off of the panties"
is a big part of the excitement. Tell her you are going to
"spank her on the bare". Tell her when it is time
for her panties to come down. Then, take them down slowly
inch by inch until you've positioned them in a way that is
pleasing to you. Or maybe you want to bring them down with
one jerk.... allowing her to feel a surprising rush of cool
air on an already-warmed rear. Variety is the spice!
things to remember while you spank: Technique is very important.
A relaxed hand, fingers closed, is usually a much more pleasant
sensation than keeping the hand stiff and rigid. Try it on
yourself. See the difference?
care to vary the placement of your strokes, and make sure
you cover the whole bottom. For most people the "sweet
spot" is the lower part of the rear...right above where
the thighs and buttocks meet. Make sure to pay special attention
to that area, but don't forget any others! While three or
four spanks in a row on the same area is exciting, many more
than that can often become unpleasant. Vary your intensity.
Give her a few soft ones and surprise her with some hard.
Chances are, you will love the reaction. Also vary the speed.
Going from slow, even strokes to quick, choppy strokes can
keep things from getting boring. Keep watch on what you are
doing and how her bottom changes color. Be careful to avoid
any areas that are bruising, or turning a white, bloodless
you decide she has had enough, it is time for the aftercare.
Ice is always nice, as is cool, soothing lotion. And both
are such fun to apply! Make sure you give her plenty of hugs
and cuddles. This is the time to let her know how much you
care about her, and how happy she makes you by taking what
you dish out.
course, if you are giving a punishment spanking, all of the
above goes out the window.