it is forgotten that flesh bruises. Bruises WILL heal, and arnica
gel, which can be purchased at a health store can be used on bruises
(although not on broken flesh). One should NEVER EVER try to flog
around the kidneys. That can cause permanent damage to the kidneys.
EVER make the mistake of binding a submissive so that he/she has NO
circulation in his/her limbs. ALWAYS check for color and warmth and
make sure you can get at least ONE finger in between those delightful
leather or metal cuffs. Make SURE that you check constantly to see
that the submissive isn't binding him/herself even tighter in his/her
struggles. NEVER gag a submissive without some kind of safe sign.
There has been permanent nerve damage done to limbs by an unknowing
it comes to binding, make sure that the knots are quick release knots.
There was one case where Two Dommes bound their male submissive and
a fire occured. He nearly died in the fire because they couldn't get
the knots undone and they panicked. Tender parts, both male and female
should NEVER be bound for a long time. This can cause blood circulation
to cease and if there is no blood going to those parts, those parts
are quick release metal cuffs made, and if the Dominant doesn't want
to "spring" for them (sorry, bad pun) then the least he
or she should do is to have the key hanging around his/her neck or
belt so that he/she can get to that key and quickly.
thing that Dominants should remember is that liquid latex, while erotic
and a nice substitute for hot candlewax, should be used in a very
well ventilated area. The stuff stinks to high heaven and some people
are allergic to latex. Be SURE first! Never ever EVER cover the submissive
entirely with the stuff, it could kill a person because the skin can't
for crying out loud, if you are going to do anal play, make SURE that
you can get the darned thing OUT as well as IN. Emergency rooms have
seen WAY too many folk with things up their bottoms..and the doctors
have to basically put them out, lubricate them up..and use forceps
to get out such interesting things as light bulbs, toy battleships
and the like.
can be used either erotically, or roughly. Both the anus and the vagina
are very vascular areas and can be easily damaged with rough play
there. Another thing one should do is always clean those "toys"
properly afterwards. Running lukewarm water over them doesn't cut
it. AND... No moving from anal to vaginal with the same toy!
here's another thing that actually did kill a person. A Dominant and
a submissive wanted to do enema play. The Dominant used vodka in the
enema bag and filled the submissive. Unfortunately, the anus is a
very vascular area..and anything that goes there instantly goes into
the bloodstream. When one drinks alcohol, one has a sort of a "safe"
system (i.e., one usually passes out or vomits) but there IS no safe
system with an enema. She was a lovely girl and now she is dead due
to this unsafe playtime.
clamps and/or clothespins are lovely tools to use. It is suggested
that if the submissive has never been clamped, a total of no more
than five minutes. Remember, when those clamps are removed, the pain
will be excruciating so be gentle. The experienced submissive will
have to know his/her limits. It is suggested, however, no longer than
about 20 or 30 minutes, tops.
a submissive is suspended, extra care MUST be taken. First, the thought
of rising him/her onto his/her toes is VERY tempting. It is not a
good idea, especially the first time, until the submissive grows used
to it. After that maybe a bit more suspension, but once again, care
must always be taken to ensure that the submissive is not going to
suffer any permanent damage. The Dominant and the submissive should
discuss any possible health and/or back problems before the scene
ever occurs. Another reason for a safeword: if there is REAL pain..
as in utter agony... then the scene should STOP... and pronto! If
one's doctor tells him or her there are certain restrictions, such
as lifting, etc., then that should be a clue as to what one can do
wax is a wonderful tool. Again, the Dominant should make absolutely
certain that the candle is held at least high enough so that there
is a delightful "sssss" rather than a "YE GODS, WHAT
ARE YOU DOING TO ME??"
Here's some suggestions for items to be kept in a First Aid kit:
Common sense is a necessity... and don't assume that just because you've heard something can be done... or have seen it described online, that it can convert easily to RT. Think about what you're doing... there is a real live person here... and you are taking physical responsibility for him/her in a scene. And once a submissive hits subspace, he/she is seldom able to tell you that something is wrong. It is YOUR responsibility to be alert to possible problems!
Enjoy yourselves... but do so safely!!!