Consistency is not a word I have heard often
mentioned in the D/s communities, and that is a true oddity in my mind.
In searching through my heart and soul, I have found consistency to be
an essential part of much of what is taught about a successful D/s or
BDSM relationship. It is a foundation to much of what we hold to be the
building blocks of a good relationship.
What purpose does communication serve, unless
their is a consistent pattern to be learned from it? A submissive may
ask her Master about something which is crucial to her learning what pleases
him. If the answer changes on a daily basis.. learning anything becomes
very difficult. Inconsistency breeds confusion.
If answers to the same questions changes,
a persons honesty becomes an issue in the mind of the person asking. If
your submissive is told one thing, and bases her action upon it, only
to find out that what she did was wrong, based on a different answer to
the question which comes later, who is to blame? The submissive will often
blame herself.. feeling that she misunderstood. She may tear her own head
apart, looking for the answer to how she failed, changing things based
on what she feels was her own failure. Those changes could easily harm
the relationship.. the Dominant may not realize why those changes are
taking place. Other submissives may blame their Dominant, for being untruthful
in their response. Either way, someone is hurt.
How can you trust someone, who is incapable
of telling you their true feelings? Inconsistency in a persons feelings,
makes it very difficult for you to trust that you will not get hurt by
this person. Inconsistency in discipline or teachings, makes it impossible.
Inconsistent loyalty, is no loyalty at all.