for those times when you're having troubles
by Celeste aka BitaTruble
When I was first asked to write this advice
column, I was thrilled to be able to give back some of what I have gained
from living the life of leather and to help others along the path.
Then I started to panic. I'm not qualified!
Why should anyone listen to what I have to say! Why would
anyone ask me for advice in the first place! What if I make a mistake!
After the initial panic attack, I calmed down and realized that advice
is never meant to 'lead' anyone down a path, only to show other ways of
thinking so that people can make their own decisions. It's all about
knowledgeable consent and if I can help in that, I am happy to do so.
I have always had an interest in BDSM, since I was a very young child
but didn't have my first r/t session until July 3, 1982. I knocked
on the Doms door at 4:50 and didn't go home until after 1 AM in the morning.
I think it's obvious it made an impression on me. That first
session hooked me r/t on BDSM and I've been steeped in the leather vats
ever since. I spent the first seven years exploring my submissive
nature. Serving, learning and gaining self knowledge, understanding
and acceptance. After seven years, my switch got flipped and I concentrated
on my Dominate side. I learned the techniques, toys and language
of a Domme and really enjoyed learning even more of myself and what I
was truly about. Then I met Michael.. my current partner and have
spent the last 4 1/2 years as a switch, serving Michael as his 24/7 submissive
while enjoying the freedom he gives me to Dominate others ! when I, and
they, have the desire that I do so. Encompassing all sides of my
true self, continuing my education in leather, joining organizations,
doing demo's, lectures, writing, web design and even founding an educational
based BDSM organization has opened up this world for me in ways I had
never dreamed possible. I count my blessings and know how lucky
Please feel free to write with the word 'advice' in the subject line and
I will answer all questions either in the eZine or to your personal mailbox
if we run out of room. The toy box is now open.