 by
Dennis Burns
“I wanna
be free…
Contracts are common and useful tools in our lives and within our
lifestyle. What we use contracts for is anything from a play date
to a lifelong commitment. The problem with contracts is that we
use an imprecise language called English. If it was written in Greek
or Latin it would be more precise, but since we do not read Greek
or Latin (with a few exceptions) that is not practical. English
is not a bad language, do not get me wrong. When we use it there
is vagueness, or a mental fog, that occurs when we try to describe,
discuss, and place these emotions onto paper. Ask ten people what
is love, or submission, or slavery, you will have twelve answers
if not more. A clear understanding of how each of us interprets
a word, a phrase, a position, or a standing within a relationship
of our ilk becomes more important than most peoples wedding vows.
Now add to this equation a poly relationship and the challenge becomes
far greater in its importance and on the other hand in its vagueness.
We are a group of people (shock shock) who have a tendency to push
boundaries-to test the fence line. To see if the fence is really
electric, sometimes even after we have been shocked. So it should
come to no surprise that when you think you have written an airtight
contract, a contract so ironclad that it will hold water, that your
little one, that demure sweet innocent looking childlike slave of
yours, makes that contract float like the SS Titanic after a little
bit of ice. The agreement and petition are here in the words of one of mine:
Those are the words of our slave, kia. I felt it was better for her to speak her own mind about an issue that is definitely dear to her heart. Just because I write this article doesn’t mean that everything that I say in it is the gospel for all. I look at this article as a way of me stating what MY thoughts are and what the practical side of living my life with children and all the aspects that reality tosses at us. But this is my family and their words are part of my words. Loopholes occur when a contract is written in such tight constraints that the realities of life have little meaning. Just like when OJ Simpson was asked to put on the gloves, leather gloves, that had been kept in a plastic bad with moisture of the morning dew of that day and whatever blood residue, it did not fit. Now for us who know of leather, a little bit, wet leather shrinks when it dries. But by popular opinion and by appearances what may have been a custom fit glove, no longer did. So the loophole was “if the glove does not fit, you must acquit.” Some people need, and desire, strong guidelines, it is the basis for most of our lifestyle. Unfortunately this need, when placed on paper, becomes an area of contention. Little ones may look for loopholes to see if their Masters, or Ma`ams, are paying attention. They may be looking for ways to receive administration to their slips or purposeful disregard of the written contract. I have seen slaves who remove their collar and leave it in plain sight just because they are having a temper tantrum, or to test to see how long it takes their Master to notice. Are these tests good, NO, but they are representation of a problem. Whether it is a lack of commitment on either side, a show of will, it still represents a problem. My personal feeling is that the contract that they may have does not allow for free communication. So in their frustration they communicate by acting out. Testing the boundaries in, and of itself, is not bad; children always want to know how far they can go down the street, just as a slave may wish to know what their limits are. In the process of testing these limits a slave can find if the commitment they are with now is true (as I have said before many come with a past of pain, from failed commitments or wrong choices) usually after a few tests they may find that it is a true commitment. But throw a strict and uncompromising contract in to the works and you will find that the slave feels those small tests can’t be risked and the frustration may build where they will do a larger, more unacceptable test. My recommendations, for what they are worth, is leave the contracts for the lawyers, ours do not have any real bearings in the court of law anyway. Have set of protocols, house rules, maybe a credo of conduct, a petition or a statement of commitment, for that is what a contract is really saying. Keep things with a bit of flexibility, you never know what is going to come into your world or how it is going to effect it. Let the Universe assist in your guidance. As always these are my opinions and as such take what you like and leave what you don’t. And remember that life is not as cut and dry as a contract. (Just try cuddling up and reading one at night.) The way I look at my Clan, is that I am the head but the rest are my body, and I can’t go anywhere without them. Be
well and adieu. Mastery
is not knowing all, but knowing what you do not know and seeking
that knowledge. Mastery
requires motion: from the quiet motion of stillness to the motion
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