| May/June 2002 | |
by
Justin Medlin
I
have found, that the people that I consider to be the best dominants,
the ones that I respect the most are all, very caring, giving
and often times humble people. No need for grandstanding, chest
beating, or trumpet blowing. I
feel that I am a dominant by nature, but that does not cause me
to seek to be in charge of everything. I am currently in service
to Master Doug Harris and I also own a slave. For me at least,
its not all centered around the play or sex, its centered around
the energy exchange and the spirituality. Being
a dominant and owning someone is the largest responsibility that
I know of. It certainly requires me to continue to learn and grow,
to push myself, before I can lead her. The often mentioned issue
of safety is a big one, but it's one that exists well outside
of the dungeon and bedroom. I must think of how she will be cared
for, mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, including
to the point of setting up the frame work for her care should
I die before she does. I expect myself to travel all those roads
as far ahead of her as I can before I instruct her in how to walk
them. Dominance
to me, is not wielding a tool, that is an expression of it. Its
not about demanding my way all the time, that's an indication
of insecurity. Its
not about forcing my will on someone else, having that person
come to me and want to submit to it is only a manifestation of
it. Dominance to me, is about Service. Service to yourself, your
submissive or slave and to your community at large, through making
things better for each and every one of those things through the
force of your will, without ever having to raise your voice, or
your hand. Dominance
is about providing the focus so that others might meet your goals
and theirs. Justin
Medlin Now that I have your attention feel free to email me. I may or may not respond to the emails, but I promise to read all of them. Copyright
Justin
Medlin © September 2001 |